Last Updated on September 30, 2023 by Ray Amaari
Do you know the key to truly loving yourself is establishing consistent self-love habits? Whenever someone asks, “Do you love yourself?” we respond within microseconds by saying “Yes!”
One reason is the way we’d look if we hesitated for just a few seconds. Therefore, even if it is not entirely accurate, we are quick to say yes. It is really up to you what you tell other people as long as you are staying true to yourself.
It can take a long time to learn to love yourself. You cannot improve your sense of self-worth overnight because there are stages and steps to achieving it. Such steps will include lots of souls searching, going within, dealing with old memories and mistakes, as well as healing before you are able to love yourself.
If you’ve had painful experiences in the past or are in difficult circumstances, you might find the process painful too. The fact that I can say I love myself and believe it is a wonderful feeling for me. As I stated, it did not happen in an instant.
I was patient with myself as long as it was going to take because of how important this is to me.
My first practice of self-love was that I chose patience through this process (because I used to be hard on myself).
What Is Self-Love?
The definition of self-love is accepting yourself the way you are and making changes to your life as you see fit; not being pressured by others to change. Self-love allows you to be kind, gentle, patient, and open to yourself. Getting to know yourself and embracing your true qualities is all part of it.
Firstly, I wish to dispel the idea that a self-love is an act of selfishness. In no way is this accurate. Being in love with yourself is a process and a decision that you make simply for your well-being and your own support.
In this case, there is no selfishness involved. Any person who makes you feel bad about taking steps to love yourself is not the right person to be around. You are improving your life, why would anyone be mad about that?
Why Self Love Is Important?
1. In knowing who we really are, we know what to and what not to allow.
2. It is a process of creating a strong and healthy relationship with yourself.
3. You are finding ways to have sufficient love for yourself because you shouldn’t have to be dependent on others to give that to you.
4. When you love yourself, you start to see life in a different way. People’s opinions won’t matter anymore.
5. Self-love is vital for your mental health, your confidence, self-esteem, and self-worth. How you see and treat yourself is how others will learn to see and treat you.
5 Self Love Habits To Start Practising
1. Be Patient And Kind To Yourself
When you don’t show yourself patience, no one else will. You probably know that the process of transformation is not always straightforward. It requires a great deal of patience and brings many uncertainties.
Treat yourself with kindness and gentleness. In order for new habits to stick, they need time to develop. Hence, it is important to practice kindness to yourself daily until it becomes second nature. In general, people treat you according to how you treat yourself.
2. Avoid Listening To External Thoughts
This is one of the first steps to learning about who you are and what is acceptable to you. From there, you can learn what is not acceptable to you
It is difficult for some people to accept change. For their own comfort, many people would prefer if you stayed the same.
A person’s opinion of you shouldn’t matter. Stop listening to people who tell you who you should be and what you should do. Your opinion should be the only one that matters.
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3. Declutter Your Life
You have to let unnecessary baggage go especially if it’s not yours to carry. You have your own problems, so why enable someone else’s problems to weigh you down as well as your own.
It doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t be supportive and helpful to your loved ones. There are many ways to be of service to others without letting them weigh you down. If you get to a stage where you are able to fully love yourself, you will be able to offer your energy in a way that isn’t a drain. Take care of yourself.
4. Start Prioritizing Yourself
The importance of prioritizing yourself cannot be overstated. Remember, what you allow is what will continue.
Whenever you feel or sense that something is not right, acknowledge that and act accordingly. Most people who try to please other people are unhappy.
Whenever you need to, learn to say ‘no’. Allowing things to slide implies, indirectly, that you are ok with whatever is happening.
5. Really Start Loving Yourself
I know it’s easier said than done… But you should act as you do. All aspects of being healthy are impacted by self-love. Make sure you take care of yourself by exercising, eating healthfully, taking yourself out on dates, reading books, traveling, and just learning to enjoy yourself. Prioritize yourself first. You gain confidence when you stop looking for love from others and start relying on yourself.
The promotion of self-love habits does not in any way encourage isolation from others. The importance of relationships and a supportive network cannot be overstated. Basically, it is a way of life that promotes giving to yourself as much as giving to others. This will allow us to form healthier relationships with ourselves and those around us.