The world is moving so fast in a way that we find ourselves in different circumstances and different challenges that can cause our confidence and self esteem to be tested- by social media, coworkers, family and friends. Everyone expects that as a grown up, you ought to have it all together but that’s not even close to being true.
We continue to learn in life even as adults, learning is a never ending process and your principles and assertion will be challenged as such. So the question is how do you build confidence and self esteem as a grown up?
Having little to no self belief is not a mental illness but can easily lead to depression. It is about how you perceive yourself. Having no/little self esteem means you don’t see the value in yourself. Low self-esteem can be deeply rooted, with origins in traumatic childhood experiences, neglect, or emotional, physical, or sexual abuse.
If you feel that you suffer from lack of confidence and poor self-esteem, there are a number of simple things that you can do to boost yourself and potentially break out of that negative space. You don’t need to do all of these things at once, you just have to take it one step at a time.
Think About What Is Affecting Your Self Esteem And Eliminate It
Factors that can affect your self esteem differs for everyone. Your confidence might have been lowered by a series of negative events such as:
- losing your job
- being bullied or abused
- poor health
- difficult (toxic) relationships
Or may be self-afflicted by comparing yourself to others.
If your confidence and self esteem is being lowered by something beyond your control, something you can’t change at all then it is important that you find a way to learn how to make peace with your reality. The beauty of life is it gives you back what you put into it.
Do not let anything put you down especially if it is something beyond anyone’s control. You need to secure your happiness by reminding yourself that you are bigger that your situation and don’t allow it cage you. The best lives are created from the most difficult situations.
Try not to compare yourself to others, I know it’s easier said than done in this social media age but no one posts their struggles and challenges online and that is one thing we all have in common.
Avoid Negative Self Talk
Think better and speak positive about yourself. When you think and say something over and over again you start to believe it.
“Your beliefs become your thoughts,
Your thoughts become your words,
Your words become your actions,
Your actions become your habits,
Your habits become your values,
Your values become your destiny.”
One thing I do to cleanse my mind after being exposed to negativity is meditate and listen to positive self affirmations. These are the most helpful tools I can recommend. I can’t emphasize how much they have helped me maintain positivity and build my confidence tremendously to feeling like I can take over the world.
What you say and do to yourself teaches others around you how to treat you too and what you allow will continue.
Focus On Your Accomplishments
Focusing on your accomplishments is a good way to focus on yourself and eliminate comparison. Doing this reminds you of the value and contributions you create as a person and you should celebrate your skillset because those have brought you far in life. It’s an instant feel good technique.
Celebrate your wins no matter how small, take some time to reflect and praise yourself.
In this post I talk about how you can change your life instantly. Practice some of that and some of this and you’ll find yourself on a phenomenal journey to self appreciation.
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