Dealing with setbacks in a proper fashion is very important. Nothing is constant in life but changes. Change is a significant part of our human experience because that is how we grow, learn and ultimately acquire wisdom.
A change is not necessarily going to be positive always. When things take an unexpected turn for the worse it is assumed to be a setback. I’ve had my own share of major and minor setbacks too. Some of which I thought I would never get out of. It looked like there was no way to turn things around but that was just how I dealt with problems back then. I let panic and anxiety take over my sense of reasoning.
I’ve learned that we can choose to find something good in our setbacks, it all depends on what we want to take from them. I am so happy about some of my past setbacks because they are why some things in my life are here today. To properly deal with a setback, you need to:
1. Expect And Acknowledge It
Understand that it happens to everyone, young and old, businesses, plans, health and even in relationships. Accept that there is a problem and recognize the problem for that is the only way you can begin the process of transformation.
Life is much colorful on the other side of a setback. We do not come out of a setback as the same person. You become wiser and stronger at dealing with unpleasant circumstances. Pretending that the problem is not there won’t help. The earlier you deal with it, the quicker you can carry on. These challenges are life’s way of strengthening us for every other thing life will throw at us.
2. Don’t Play The Blame Game
Accept that things happen for no apparent or obvious reasons sometimes. Don’t spend precious time trying to place the blame on someone. One, it won’t help. The deed is done. The problem won’t disappear by blaming someone. Two, brainstorming a way out of the problem together is a much healthier thing do to protect your relationships and your mind. Trying to place blame may cause you to harbor negative feelings in your mind. Just unnecessary stress.
3. Put The Emotions Away And Bring Out The Objectivity
Begin to analyze the situation. Ask questions beginning with “how” and “why” only with the intention of learning what went wrong so that you can fix the problem and avoid the same setback in the future. Don’t ask with the intention of placing blame. You still have to get back to actually solving the problem.
Objectively size up what just happened. Write down what worked and didn’t, what factors led to the setback. Seeing the factors on the paper void of emotions allows you to accept and start building a plan to reverse or make amendments.
4. Time To Act
After creating a plan, you’re ready to move forward with your plan, measuring progress along the way. This step will energize you. It helps wash away the negative emotions associated with the setback and gives you something positive to focus on.
5. Fix Your Mindset
Setbacks are actually a form of progress in disguise. Think back to the most powerful things you learned in life, and I’ll bet many of those enlightenments are connected to a setback. In fact, you can likely connect a lot of your success and confidence to the growth that came from your most challenging experiences. Of course, hindsight makes those setbacks seem inconsequential – but they likely felt a lot heavier at the time. Remind yourself that the aftermath is temporary and will lead to valuable outcomes.