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Being different is like having a super power unique to just yourself. We all have traits and qualities that allow us have colorful personalities and when different people come together, creativity is born. There’s no limit to how creative you can be when you embrace your difference. I did, and I love my life!
I’ve always been different from birth (my mother would say) and that didn’t quite sit well with her for an African parents. When your parents are Africans, your life is 60% designed by them and 40% destiny. It’s either their way or God’s way. Notice I said God after them because most African parents have an image of what you are supposed to become before you are given bith to. They often stick to that narrative and when all else fails, they let God.
Don’t get me wrong, this post is not to bash African parents, for all they do comes from a loving place. They know how tought life can get and all they try to do is prepare you for everything… or most.
This is just a simple post to share with you some of my experinces of embracing my true self.
I felt different right from time. I didn’t know why. I just knew I wasn’t meant to be a follower. I had lots of questions about how the world worked and I needed logical answers. Most answers I got centered around “that’s what people do”, “that’s what’s trending”, “if you don’t do X, you are a bad person”.
None of those were satisfactory to me. I wanted more. I needed to know more. So I kept asking and researching.
Fast forward to today.. I live according to whatever feels natural to me, sense and reasoning. I learned to embrace my flaws in the sense that I change what I can (just for myself) and I live with what I can’t. It’s that simple for me.
In accepting my difference so far:
- I live my truth. My family loves me difference and to be honest.. we all make a very interesting dynamic.
- I am able to be creative with the freedom I have allowed myself.
- I can think for myself and act as I wish with full understanding of all ramifications. No regrets and no one else to blame.
- I’ve made very lovely friends who have accepted my difference because I accept myself.
- I learned that being deifferent doesn’t make you a bad person.
- I learned that people are all very different if they’d just stop acting and live.
- I found out I’ve been living my best life before it became a catch phrase lol.
Just live for yourself.. it’s exciting and less stressful as oppposed to living for others. As far as your difference isn’t causing harm to you and others then why not?
The one who follows the crowd, will usually go no further than the crowd. Thos who walk alone are likely to find themselves in places no one has ever been before – Francic Phillip Wernig