Raise your hands if you have ever made New Years resolutions. Now raise your hands if you stuck with it past January.
If you are one of the few people with their hands still up then you have to give yourself a pat on the back for your determination and strong will.
The rest of us obviously have commitment issues.
This post is for us, the people who can’t seem to make new years resolutions work.
What Is The Point Of A New Years Resolution?
You can make a resolution at any time of the year and stick to it.
It must not be a New Year before you decide to make your life better. Personal development should be an ongoing process.
But, I understand the love for making these changes on a new year.
I am someone who finds it hard starting something midway. A beginning symbolizes new and fresh so it’s easier to make a plan and stick to it supposedly yet WE STILL FAIL.
Why Your New Years Resolution Is Not Working
When people make these resolutions like “I’m going to lose 10 pounds this year” or “I’m not going to call my toxic ex anymore”
-they still fail sooner rather than later.
You know why?
Little to no introspection has gone into the conclusion to do these things in the first place.
When you don’t know why you are doing something how else can you stick to it?
You haven’t gone within yourself to ask yourself the important questions that should provide you all the reasons why.
Self evaluation and reflections are the key to sticking to making any changes in life.
So What Should You Do Instead?
If you want to figure out the changes you need to make in your life then do this exercise below.
I like to ask myself questions a lot. Have a sit down with my innermost self and get candid.
Asking some vital questions exposes you to yourself and you see yourself clearly.
If you like what you see, great job and if you don’t then you’ve got work to do.
For example: You want to stop being available to your toxic ex.
Ask yourself these questions;
Why do I keep making him/her a priority in my life?
What positive things has s/he done in my life? (very little I’m sure)
Then, what negative traits does has s/he bring out in me?
Do I like who I am when I am around them?
The importance of this exercise is that, once you are done, it will provide you answers and reasons that make you understand why you need that change and because you have been honest with yourself it should be easier to stick to.
I am going to leave some generic questions below that can help you decide where you need to make changes in your life this New Year.
10 Self Reflective Questions You Need To Ask Yourself
1. Am I happy with how last year went? Yes or No? Why? If no, what could I have done better?
2. Am I holding on to something I need to let go of? If yes, why? What am I afraid of?
3. If not now, when? What is stopping you or holding you back?
4. What matters most in my life? Why do they matter?
5. Where do I see myself next year? What needs to be done in order to get there?
6. Am I using my time wisely? Yes or no? If no, what could I be doing instead? How will that thing improve my life?
7. What have I given up on? Why did I give up on it? Would it have made me a better person?
8. If this was my last year alive, what would I spend most of my time doing?
9. What parts of my life do I want to see a change in? What am I doing about it?
10. How many of my friends can I depend on? Do they contribute positively to my life?
I could go on and on but you catch the drift right? Introspection and valid reasons are the only ways to commit to personal development.
Let me know in the comments below what you want to work on this year and how you plan to g about it.
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