Are you feeling stuck in your life right now? Does it feel like you wake up doing the same unfulfilling things and go to bed at night just to repeat this cycle the next day? This may be happening to you because you are not living your true life. Finding your purpose is the only thing that can set you free.
In recent times, more and more people struggle to maintain a healthy positive mindset. I know why that is. Unlike the past generations before us, our time seems to be very demanding. We are swamped with loads of expectations both within and without our selves. There seems to be a lot going on and we are just too busy. Our minds are constantly racing; making plans, chasing dreams and ambitions etc, and slowly but surely sacrificing our mental health to measure up to all these things.
The mind is very powerful, everything you can possibly do in life starts and ends there. The power of the mind is not to be underestimated. So why don’t we spend more time taking care of it? My guess is because the mind is intangible and on the inside, it’s easy to neglect. Sometimes, we pay more attention to what other people can see because we do not want to be judged.
It may be challenging for some people to create and maintain a healthy mindset while easy for others. However, with constant practice, you will be the one controlling your mind and not the mind controlling you. I am listing below the five things I do to achieve a healthy mindset and lay the best foundation for your day to day activities.
I started meditating over a year ago and I wonder why I didn’t start sooner as I can’t see myself living without it. This is an act I practice at least 3 times a week, either mornings or night time. Absolutely soothing for my mind. Whenever I meditate, I feel 10 pounds lighter. That shows me how much mental weight (baggage) I accumulate and log around.
We can’t really control how much information our mind absorbs but what we can control is how to process it. Meditation will help you achieve that.
There’s a huge misconception that meditation means clearing the mind of all thoughts. That’s absolutely impossible. Meditation is about coming into oneself and finding a balance with all there is within. During this act, you are nurturing your mind by ridding it of negativity and drawing positive energy in using sounds and/or visualization techniques.
You can choose to practice meditation all on your own or listen to a guided one. Youtube is a great place to start if you want to give it a try. I doubt you’ll stop once you start.
This is another practice I can’t live without. Affirmations made all the difference for me in strengthening my mind against negative thoughts. When you affirm something to yourself, you are choosing to believe in things as a fact whether it appears so or not. Affirmations are positive mantras we repeat to ourselves as a reconditioning technique.
Sometimes, people think negatively of us to the point that some people start to believe what others think of them. You have to learn how to speak, think and believe positive things about yourself. This is where affirmations come in. Repeat a few positive affirmations as often as needed. Thoughts become things. I have a dedicated post on this topic you can read here.
Mindfulness is another practice that benefits the mind. To simply put it, mindfulness is an act of intentional living. Intentional living in the sense that it requires you to bring consciously bring your attention to the present and focus with all of your senses on all that is occurring at the present moment. This state of mind can be easily achieved through the practice of constant yoga and meditation.
An example, I recently took a trip to England and during my time away, I left all worries and concerns behind the moment I stepped on the plane. Lived every day for the moment literally with no care in the world soaking everything in and actively staying in the present moment with my friends and family. That was a trip I needed to get my life together. I love this article on mindfulness, I’d suggest you read it if this topic interests you.
I started doing yoga about two weeks ago. I never took yoga seriously because I believed in gym workouts and thought it (yoga) was too easy and all about stretches and swaying movements but I was wrong. I worked and flexed muscles I never felt in my body before. If you are looking to build lean muscles, this is the way to go. Anyway, my sister has a great influence on me and she had been practicing yoga for over a year now. Always invited me to join but I couldn’t see the point. Eventually, I tried it and I fell in love with it.
For me, what I love the most about yoga is that I have a poor balance and with yoga, I can fix that. I also realized how much focus and intent yoga required. When you are on that mat, there is no room for negative thinking or hyperactive mind. It is a time to be calm and connect your soul to your body and the moment you are distracted, you lose balance (note that losing balance is very normal for beginners).
The benefits of yoga are vast. I describe it as a physical and mental workout. To get started, I’d recommend you get a very good non-slip yoga mat for the best support and practice this 30 min Yin Yoga class by Travis Eliot. It’s amazing, you’ll love it.
I am also in the process of cultivating a good reading habit. I used to read a lot. A lot of fictional and non- fictional books but not anymore. I lost interest in such books when I started my soul searching journey and my interest grew for self-help books that focused more on spirituality and self. I’m always up for anything that can benefit my soul.
Reading helps you take your mind off things that may have a burdening effect on your mind. It’s a way to escape and exercise your mind as you paint the pictures of the story in your mind. Reading is also very healthy for our minds and it supposedly strengthens our memories and prevents/delay diseases such as Alzheimer’s.
I am currently reading Living In The Light by Shakti Gawain, this book was lent to me and I can’t believe a book like this existed all this while and I’m just reading it. This book is so amazing and if you are someone who has ever questioned your existence, wondered what your purpose might be in life or simply just curious about the concepts within spirituality then you must give this book a read. I’m definitely buying my own copy to grow a collection.
Affirmations are one of the best tools you can use to live a happier life. Matters of the inner self starts and ends with the quality of your mindset. So it’s no surprise that using daily affirmations to train your thought process is now being used an ultimate self-care tip.
The world is moving so fast in a way that we find ourselves in different circumstances and different challenges that can cause our confidence and self-esteem to be tested- by social media, coworkers, family, and friends. Everyone expects that as a grown-up, you ought to have it all together but that’s not even close to being true.
Dealing with setbacks in a proper fashion is very important. Nothing is constant in life but changes. Change is a significant part of our human experience because that is how we grow, learn and ultimately acquire wisdom.
If you find yourself feeling unhappy, unfulfilled and maybe just need some changes and expecting better results for your overall well being then maybe it’s time for you to start considering making some changes. To change your life, you have to change some of your habits. When you develop new habits, your perspective about life changes. Only then can you find true happiness and fulfillment.
Whatever you want out of life or whatever you want to become, this post is bound to help. It may not give you all the answers you need right now but applying a few tips from here is a step in the right direction. You don’t want to find yourself in the future saying things like “I might have” or “I should have”. Phrases like these are the saddest things anyone can say and are usually followed by a midlife crisis, an uneventful life or an unwavering bout of regrets when it’s already probably too late.
In this post, I have 7 tips to share with you about how you can change your life to be whatever you want to be in a heartbeat. It starts with a choice only you can make for yourself. Here goes;
1. Acknowledge Your Past Mistakes and Learn From Them
Life is basically about choices. The ability to make a choice will determine your reality today. You are where you are right now because of the choices you have made and it’s definitely okay because we don’t have to have life figured out. Life is a learning process and don’t let anyone take your bad choices away from you. Those will be your ammunition for the future ones you are about to make. The bad choices we’ve made in the past are meant to steer us in the right direction after learning from them.
2. Erase The Idea Of Perfectionism From Your Mind
This is something I have battled with myself because of how passionate I get when it comes to goals and achievements. Perfect doesn’t exist and once you realize this, you can ease up on yourself and be happier. Perfection is a wild idealism bound to ruin a healthy state of mind. Know that you are just enough and be happy with what you have. You don’t have to lower your standards but set realistic ones for yourself.
3. Make Sure To Have Supporters In Your Life
If you are not being supported by your friends then you have to look for new friends. Everyone needs a support system; people that will be there for you no matter what and are not afraid to tell you the truth. Avoid ‘yes people’, have a circle of people that are ready to support your goals and dreams and will encourage you.
4. Think Highly of Yourself For You Will Only Go As High As You Think
Your mind is where becoming who you want to start from. Limitations and possibilities live there. It is up to you to decide what part to focus on. If you think you can’t achieve something then there’s a fair chance it won’t happen and vice versa. Fill your mind with positive thoughts so that you can attract positive things.
5. Face Your Fears And Get Out Of Your Comfort Zone
Ever heard that saying that goes like “Everything you want is outside your comfort zone?” So what are you going to do about it? Your wants won’t come to you. If you desire them that much, you have to go for it. Nothing bad can come out of it. You either win something or learn from it. It’s honestly not that hard.
6. Don’t Be Afraid To Try New Things
Bring excitement into your life by trying out things you’d really not want to. Be an adventurous thrill seeker. To really understand what I mean, look at Will Smith’s Instagram account. He is LIVING while millions of people watch. Go mountain climbing, deep diving, bungee jumping e.t.c. The adrenaline pumps you get from these activities fill you with bursts of energy which makes you realize you can do anything.
7. Go For A Social Media Detox
Take some days off social media. Do it for your mental health. It’s hard not to fall into the trap of comparison and that’s what social media does. Step away from it, watch the news and some documentaries instead. That’s where you’ll learn how people really live because no one is going to post their bad times on social media.