“I might have been a singer
Who sailed around the world..
A gambler who wins millions
And spent it all on girls
I might have been a poet
Who walked upon the moon
A scientist who’d tell the world
I’d discovered something new
I might have loved a king
Been the one to end a war
A criminal who drank champagne
And never could be caught“
–Dido Armstrong (2008)
No! Don’t be a criminal, but I’m sure you catch the drift by the lyrics. Phrases like I might have or I should have are about the saddest things to say and is usually followed by a midlife crisis, an uneventful life or an unwavering bout of regrets when it’s probably too late.
In this post, I have 10 tips to share with you about how you can change your life to be whatever you want in a heartbeat. It starts with a choice only you can make for yourself. Here goes;
Acknowledge Your Past Choice And Make Amends With The Future Ones
Life is basically about choices. The ability to make a choice will determine you reality today. You are where you are right now because of the choices you have made and it’s okay. Don’t let anyone take your bad choices away from you. Those will be your ammunition for the future ones you are about to make. The bad choices we’ve made in the past are meant to steer us in the right direction after learning from them.
Erase The Idea Of Perfectionism From Your Mind
This is something I have battled with myself because of how passionate I get when it comes to goals and achievements. Perfect doesn’t exist and once you realise this, you can ease up on yourself and be happier. Perfection is a crazy idealism bound to ruin a healthy state of mind.
Make Sure To Have Supporters In Your Life
If you are not being supported by your friends then you have to look for new friends. Everyone needs a support system; people that will be there for you no matter what and are not afraid to tell you the truth. Avoid ‘yes people’. You can’t be right always.
Think Highly of Yourself For You Will Never Go Higher Than You Think
Your mind is where becoming who you want to be start from. Limitations and possibilities live there. It is up to you to decide what part to focus on. If you think you can’t achieve something then there’s a fair chance it won’t happen and vice versa. Fill your mind with positive thoughts so that you can attract positive things.
You Have To Face Your Fears And Get Out Of Your Comfort Zone
Ever heard that saying that goes like “Everything you want is outside your comfort zone?” So what are you going to do about it. Your wants won’t come to you. If you desire them that much, you have to go for it. Nothing bad can come out of it. You either win something or learn from it. It’s honestly not that hard.
Don’t Be Afraid To Try New Things
Bring excitement into your life by trying out things you’d really not want to. Be an adventurous thrill seeker. To really understand what I mean, look at Will Smith’s Instagram account. He is LIVING while millions of people watch. Go mountain climbing, deep diving, bungee jumping e.t.c. The adrenaline pumps you get from these activities fills you with bursts of energy which makes you realise you can do anything.
Go For A Social Media Detox
Take some days off social media. Do it for your mental health. It’s hard not to fall into the trap of comparison and that’s what social media does. Step away from it, watch the news and some documentaries instead. That’s where you’ll learn how people really live because no one is going to post their bad times on social media.